My sister is unfiltered and funny as heck because she “calls em as she sees em!”  I was just glancing over a blog she posted several months ago titled “Mansions, Moochers & Morons” and wound up spitting out my coffee.  You see, the circumstances for that Dream Event were based on the mother of the groom being diagnosed with Stage 4 Liver Cancer and wanting to see her son married.  The initial correspondence touched my heart.  Upon arriving at the home however, the mother wasn’t present to witness the ceremony and yes, it bothered me.

Cindy Daniel With My Son, Robert Hafele

Morgan Wedding- Texas Twins Events/Pawning Planners Team

Fundraising At Harley Davidson- The Pawning Planners & Tammi Leggett

On Location- Wedding In The Park With Twins Maryssa & Makenna Mahaney And Robert & Stephaney Hafele

Robert Hafele (My Son) Hotfoots a Day Of Charitable Deliveries While Cindy and I Are In Beverly Hills and Unavailable, Our Adult Children “PullUp The Slack” When I Overcommit Myself

My sister does get pretty upset when folks “abuse” my system of helping anyone regardless of their income.  Cindy’s blog is largely based on her observations at events for hundreds of families and on her home life as well Cindy Daniel’s Blog Site Texastwins2004 is full of hilarious #Cindyisms that we use on our Pawning Planners Apparel. 

On Location- Robert & Stephanie Hafele

The Pawning Planners (Two Sets Of Twins) With Family Friend Tammi Leggett And Her Daughter Samantha

On Location- My Surrogate Mom Virginia Malone & Our Little Pawners Maryssa & Makenna Mahaney

It has only been on a handful of occasions that my team and I have been taken advantage of but, being burned by folks with money isn’t funny- we make sacrifices everyday to make my businesses work.  I haven’t taken a vacation in years in order to use whatever disposable income I have to invest in Pawning Planners Apparel, Texas Twins Treasures, and website development.

My story is one of inspiration, joy and sadness for the families who could not afford funeral flowers much less, a funeral clergy.  I began donating my arrangements to 5 area funeral homes after the tragic death of my son and his wife’s Maid Of Honor- Melissa.  Quickly dropping making the wedding bouquets, I made three wreaths and two standing arrangements in silk.  The funeral director came to me and asked if I could donate the silk arrangements to the funeral home because they would be timeless and bring beauty for families who had no money for arrangements.  Not only did I honor his request, but I still volunteer to officiate and use left over flowers to create timeless treasures for families that are used over and over again.

When I tell you that I’m the person I’ve never met- I actually mean it!  Helping families requires dedication, patience and understanding their story.  Putting aside enough money to build my inventory of items loaned at events was a huge investment of my money and my time.

There was no “easy” button to make my idea work.  When I realized families couldn’t afford the wedding flowers-I bought the materials and made them myself.  No money for a cake platter? Serving set?  Champagne glasses? I bought them too and brought these items to events in order to overcome whatever hurdle stood in their way.

My sister and I have gone through some fairly dilapidated barns, garages and homes with our twins, Maryssa and Makenna Mahaney.

Regardless of whether or not we found anything of value- we sponsor events when required and are happy to “gift” families a Dream Event by using the proceeds from Pawning Planners Apparel and Texas Twins Treasures.  We don’t always “hit a lick” when at an Appraisal Appointment which is why I decided to sponsor families with nothing of value or, any money.  Sponsored families are completely at my own expense.

Passion and Perseverance are important when you create a low cost wedding and event service (Texas Twins Events).  Finding a way to help those who came to us with no money took creativity but never giving up has changed the lives of hundreds of people and taught not only our children but also our clients the value of compassion. 

Wendy Wortham and Cindy Daniel- The Pawning Planners A #TwinTeam

Last weekend at a baby shower we brought bags and bags of items to, a guest asked “who is our sponsor?  How do you and your team do so much for so many?”  I’m asked this question more often than you might think.  The truth is I have no sponsors- I sold my large home with a pool and used my half of the proceeds to start Texas Twins Events, pay for advertising and website as well as buying tapestries and heavy silk fabrics for Texas Twins Treasures.  Sponsored events come COMPLETELY out of my pocket.  We have no sponsors for Texas Twins Events, Texas Twins Treasures or The Pawning Planners.  You see, my “mission” didn’t come cheaply.  Camera equipment and everything involved including film development, gasoline and even food when on the road is paid for by myself and my twin.  When I say sacrifice- I really mean it.

We recently had someone contact me regarding a wedding in Denton who had only $50 for a wedding officiant and no money for photography but somehow had paid for a venue and reception ask for my photographers to stay 3 hours at the reception, my eyebrows (along with Cindy’s) were raised of course. 

Due to the travel distance from WorthamWorld (55 minutes one way in good traffic conditions) and bringing the entire team with loaning my wedding flowers for the event- you can see why everyone NOT being compensated wouldn’t want to spend 4 hours on location.  

When we sponsor an event, we do NOT print the film.  Instead, we post the photos on my FB page.  My reasons for this are simple:  film development is expensive.  If a client can afford a venue-they CAN afford to pay my photographers.  We aren’t taking a trade so for obvious reasons, we can’t stay for the reception.  Four hours of work without being compensated is a very different scenario when we are working as The Pawning Planners because clients don’t make ridiculous requests, they are overjoyed and overwhelmed that we are helping them.  We bring cake and champagne and provide complimentary photography because WE KNOW they can’t afford these luxuries.

What WE DON’T do is give everything away to families WHO CAN AFFORD to pay us.

My initial plan was that the families who could pay would cover the families who could not.  Obviously this never happened and was the sole reason The Pawning Planners and Texas Twins Treasures were created.

My son’s wedding officiant charged $600 with $300 for the rehearsal and the other $300 for the wedding ceremony.  I charge $75 for a wedding ceremony and $175 for the rehearsal and wedding and offer numerous discounts- that’s right services and ceremonies booked through Texas Twins Events are priced far below our competitors.  The reason is that my desire to create an affordable alternative was my sole purpose and intent when I created this business.

The “going rate” for one photographer in Texas is $500-$1500 AND THAT IS WITHOUT THE PHOTOS!  We provide a disc of photos and one photographer for $175 an hour with two photographers at $275 an hour which is far below our competitors.  Providing “free” photography for four hours “isn’t going to happen” aside from the wedding being booked through The Pawning Planners as a courtesy to clients.  Free photography is solely provided for families with no money.  If you can afford “all of the other extras-you can afford to pay for photography as well.”

Cindy “watched” me and the team get burned last year (on Mothers Day no less) by officiating a rehearsal, buying yards of burlap to cover the tables, the client calling  & texting me daily, arriving 4 hours early to help set up with two photographers and at a very expensive venue only to be “stiffed” on holiday fees, and film development fees, wedding officiant fees for rehearsal and the wedding ceremony this will NEVER happen to me again.  

Developing the film alone cost me over $200 (four hours of photos with two photographers).  I had to pay my team myself AFTER the client refused to do so.  Do you know why?  Because they had already received services and “saw no need to pay AFTER the fact.”  Months of promising to pay myself and my staff by the client had us “chasing a carrot on a stick” that we never caught.  Keeping my promises to post the photos and print the film along with paying my staff?  $725.00 and my entire Mothers Day spent on location with everyone on the team unable to be with their mothers.

My holiday fees are clearly outlined in this website because bookings on holidays take us away from our own families and volunteer effort so-there are fees associated with “special requests.”

Although the caterers and bartenders as well as the venue required their money up front and in full prior to the event, I didn’t and I got burned.

Because of that and a few other “opportunistic” clients, I no longer get sucked in without compensation or the facts up front!

If you can afford a caterer, bartender, venue and everything else- you can afford to pay myself and my team and, if you can’t we take trades but we don’t work for free simply because you want to save money on photography and your wedding officiant.

Families we sponsor are truly needy and without money and I know this to be a fact because I’ve met them at their home, I’ve reviewed their trade and I know their story.  The most important element of meeting clients face to face is having the opportunity to verify the facts first.

 Wendy M Wortham 
  

Last week, I traveled to the grand opening that Karen had called and emailed me about attending.  This luxurious hotel features suite only rooms with a fabulous Bridal Suite.  Located at 1434 Center Place Dr Denton, Texas, we had an opportunity to sample the wonderful catered event with food prepared on site. 

Stephaney Mahaney, Wendy Wortham & Stephanie Hafele – Texas Twins Events/The Pawning Planners

 The beautiful lobby and comfortable seating in the reception area with complimentary coffee or tea was a wonderful little break after a long day and hour long drive.  A tour of the luxurious suites was very impressive with a reasonable cost point for wedding parties and other events.

This afternoon upon arriving back at WorthamWorld after a funeral visitation, I came home to an invitation for a wedding I’m officiating on June 4 and guess where it is?  That’s right ya all- SpringHill Suites in Denton for Rachel Massey and Keith Woolsey.

Looks like we will be seeing our friend Karen again very soon and if you are looking for a reasonably priced venue, contact Karin for a tour and visit at SpringHill Suites in Denton at 940-383-4100 Extension 726.

Karin Grebe- Catering & Events Manager Springhill Suites Denton, Texas

Wendy M Wortham No Money? No Problem- We Take Trades! Submit Yours Today At The Pawning Planners

No trade is too crazy or weird for an Appraisal Appointment and we’ve seen a few bizarre offerings lately ya all.  My saucy sidekick and twin sister, Cindy Daniel constantly reminds our little twins aka The Little Pawners, Maryssa & Makenna Mahaney that #Cindyism “you can’t profit from the harvest if you don’t plant the crop!” 

Cindy Daniel & Wendy Wortham-The Twin Team Of Texas Twins Events, Texas Twins Treasures & The Pawning Planners

But, let’s face it- they can’t all be winners.  Recently, I met with a lady who wanted a divorce party and was offering her dual cemetery plots since “she didn’t want to be buried anywhere near her husband.”  The problem?  Her husband owned the deed for the real property she was planning to barter with. 

Getting Goofy At Our Twin Photo Shoot

Why?  Well, many of The Pawning Planners clients often submit a trade that doesn’t actually belong to them.  I can’t committ or sign a Texas Twins Events Contract without payment and I won’t sign a Pawning Planners Contract without viewing the item and, if it’s a car, truck, SUV, camper, boat or real property- without viewing required documents pertaining to ownership.

Committing to a project or Dream Event requires my time and if you have no money, I’m paying out of pocket while trying to sell your item at my other sister site Visit My Treasure Chest- Texas Twins Treasures! 

Wendy Wortham On Location At A Dream Event

My twin sister and mini me twins Maryssa and Makenna Mahaney often accompany me to Appraisal Appointments where we work as a team to find items of value when clients request a liquidation event or, Pawning Party. 

At An Appraisal Appointment- More Road Trips & Rest Areas Ya All!

“Pawning” with The Pawning Planners doesn’t mean we are loaning you money- we aren’t what you are receiving is actually services that include wedding officiant, funeral clergy, event coordination, photography and numerous other services too long to list here.

Once a “deal” is made and agreed to by both parties (the client and me) I enlist the help of my multigenerational family to accommodate your request and give you the gift of a Dream Event. 

Wendy Wortham On Location- Dream Event

Virginia Malone On Location- Block Party With Little Pawners Maryssa & Makenna Mahaney

Wendy Wortham On Location- Dream Event

Texas Twins Events Photography- Year Round Military Discounts

Like anyone else, I have bills to pay, a website developer that enjoys being paid and a staff that expects compensation.

Recently, I’ve had a flood of folks wanting me to officiate their event who have yet to return my contract or their deposit.

If you are booking services through my sister site, The Pawning Planners- No Money? No Problem- The Pawning Planners Take Trades! An Appraisal Appointment is required prior to committing and scheduling your event.  Clients bartering for services also have a contract and exchange of the item or items two weeks prior to their event.

My reasons for this are many but mainly because over 6 years I’ve been burned.  Providing free photography and shouldering the expense of time and money by editing and paying for printing falls on my shoulders.  You see while I have a photography team on hand, after the event it is I who pay for printing and postage to mail photos to the clients including a disc that can be edited and copied.  I may be the only vendor who proves free photography and photos to clients who have no money but, free photography is reserved for Pawning Planners clients.

The reason is that if you can afford a venue, cake, catering, etc.  Then you can also afford to pay for the photography package offered on this site along with wedding officiant fees.

I’ve had to run around at an event trying to get paid too many times by too many people for 6 years and you can bet that any other vendor (including venues) required payment and a deposit months prior to your event and subsequently you paid them which brings me to the question of why it is so hard for me and my staff to collect on an agreed amount?

This ongoing issue baffles me since I honor my commitments and show up early and prepared as your officiant or coordinator and sometimes both!

Texas Twins Events was started by me to assist the average consumer who could never afford a 10k wedding.  My reason was based on my son’s wedding and the realization of what the vendors were charging including the wedding officiant.  I live in Fort Worth, Texas where an “average” wedding officiant charges $275-600 for a wedding ceremony with an extra fee for rehearsal.

My fees are currently well under that amount at $125 to officiate $175 for a wedding and rehearsal and a cake and champagne, wedding and photography package at my home for $225 which you would think in this market and after 6 years would be a real “bargain!”

However, rich and upper middle class clients hire me all the time for the same fees that struggling families do and because of this, I’m often the lowest paid vendor at many events who has once in over 600 events been tipped.

That’s right at one $300k wedding at the T&P downtown that had a rehearsal at Rahr Brewery I was told that the chauffeurs and bartenders had left the groom with barely enough money to pay my fee of $125.00

So if it sounds like I’ve got a chip on my shoulder for going above and beyond for years and years- I do.  Sending a contract and deposit back is standard business procedure for any wedding or event vendor.  For some reason I cannot fathom, prospective clients want me to reserve their date but don’t want to return my contract or the deposit.

There are three such clients at this very moment one on the 8th of October and 8 on October 22nd that have yet to return their deposit which will run them into the “emergency” or “short notice” additional fee but seem to think that I can pay my bills on broken promises and will be quite surprised when I book a paying client on their event date.

I’m quoted as telling my twin sister in my SUV “nothing is free for me and nothing is free for them” because it isn’t.

Over the past several years I’ve incurred the expenses of trademarks, copyrights, websites and hosting, web management and license requirements along with advertising costs that amount to well over tens of thousands of dollars that came out of my checking account.

No one “donated” their services to me and no one sponsored me- I’m it baby- the buck stops here.  Any expenses for Texas Twins Events, Texas Twins Treasures and The Pawning Planners are paid by myself and my husband.

Starting a business that directly targets struggling consumers wasn’t easy and it wasn’t free.  Rebranding and expanding Texas Twins Treasures & Texas Twins Events into The Pawning Planners to help families with no money at all wasn’t a free transition for me but I am committed to changing the wedding and events industry “one family at a time” from Fort Worth, Texad so I effectively sucked it up and did whatever was necessary to create a window that had never existed for consumers.

You would think that working for far below other vendors with so many clients and so many needs would work “when the have’s cover the have not’s” but, it doesn’t always work that way when you’re told you will be paid after the event, after you’ve sent the photos, after you’ve signed the license.  You often don’t get paid at all which is why the clause exists that your license won’t be filed until your fees are paid.

Everything I’ve learned has been from experience, elbow grease and trial or error and while I have always kept my word- I’ve had several clients who haven’t which is why I’m writing this blog today because I’m tired of keeping up my end of the bargain by paying for travel expenses, car repairs, gas, film development, and team member salaries when clients drag their feet or don’t even bother to pay me or my staff.

No Money- No Problem doesn’t mean that I or my staff work for free.  It means you either trade or pay for services.  We do not give you money through the “Pawning Process.”  You give us equal value in items in exchange for services.

Clients with no money or trade must have an Appraisal Appointment to verify and validate their situation prior to being considered for a sponsored event.

I’m hoping by laying it all out that clients will either follow the rules or find someone else to help them…

Wendy M Wortham Texas Twins TV  

My morning kicked off with a flurry of emails regarding the loss of my aunt who was also a twin.  June Sullens was a fireball of fun with a quick laugh and love of life and I’m not sure how her twin Jean will ever recover from the loss of her sister.

Just a few weeks ago, my aunt was the life of the party on the dance floor with her husband, Bill Sullens. 

    
   
Twins run in our family and Jean and June Sullens were the oldest living twins left so the loss of June was shocking and sudden.  I will cherish the many holidays spent skiing with their family on the numerous outings we shared but more than that- her smile, her spirit and her great sense of humor.

With my son moving in the next few weeks, I’ve been looking at houses in my spare time and trying to help him find one before preparing for the “big move” while scheduling Appraisal Appointments for my Pawning Planners clients and working on fundraising efforts for medical expenses with the Poteet Family.

Scheduled weddings and events are already filling my calendar into June and with this unexpected funeral rounding out the funeral of Aunt Eleanor two weeks ago and the loss of her son ŔaĽph a week later, the fragile nature of life hangs heavy in my heart.

Cindy and I constantly remind our Little Pawners, Maryssa and Makenna Mahaney that a twin is your best friend and a gift.  

Although they occasionally argue, as they grow older, they’ve learned that having compensating personalities isn’t unusual.  Maryssa loves make up and dressing up- Makenna hates it and considers herself a tomboy. 

    
    
 Cindy hates dressing up and prefers to be comfortable.  We continue to argue about this at events because my twin doesn’t think she needs to dress up to do photography and videography but that’s the twinlife with one being different than the other. 

   
Our aunts often dressed alike but Cindy hates my clothing choices and although we dressed alike when we were young, as adults we rarely do.  Maryssa and Makenna love dressing alike and have decided that even minor changes don’t work for them. 

    
 As Cindy and I both lose weight together to achieve our weight loss journey, we may choose to wear matching clothes this August at Twinsburg where we will meet hundreds of our twin friends from FB, Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin because everyone dresses alike at this major twin event.

This morning I asked my son if he could officiate a wedding for me Saturday due to my funeral commitments and was surprised when he asked if Ann could do it because he prefers “to be the back up for me or if I’m too busy, Ann.” I argued about this because on rare occasions- clients request a male minister.  My son has decided that if that’s the case then he will officiate but has “figured out” that being the center of attention isn’t easy when you are addressing a room full of strangers.

A few months ago, I officiated a wedding on a C130 at Carswell AFB and continue to answer questions regarding the unique aspects regarding that event.  The truth is that a lot of paperwork and permission was required in order to “pull it off” and if you’re a service member, you will need to request assistance from a superior officer in order to follow the protocol required to have a wedding on base and especially on a military plane. 

   
I never know where my next event will take place and often move from an exclusive venue to a park or backyard due to the distinct differences between Texas Twins Events Clients and The Pawning Planners Clients.  

One set of clients can afford everything for their event from the venue to the caterers to photographers.  The other set has no money for anything and barter for the expenses involved at their event.  The main difference between Texas Twins Events Clients and Pawning Planners Clients is money and the second difference is background and upbringing.

Cindy Daniel Helps Me Strip & Stain This Flipped Item For Texas Twins Treasures

Twins and multiples share a very unique relationship and although we have compensating personalities- we are closest to our mirror image than perhaps anyone else in our lives. 

 Cherish your family and friends because none of us know when our lives here on earth may end…

Wendy Wortham 

If you’re like most women, you have one or two things you don’t love about your body.  Since I occasionally shop with brides to find the perfect dress, today’s blog is going to give you a few key insights to finding the one that will make you feel like the Goddess you are!  

Whether you have a muffin top or love handles or not-wedding dresses, evening gowns and clothing can celebrate your assets or downplay your flaws.

Older brides often don’t want to wear a dress that exposes their arms- try a few dresses that cover your upper arms and have slightly sheer sleeves. You will still feel beautiful and not insecure with your upper arms.

  
If you are pear shaped- look for a skirt that gradually flares out into an A from your natural waistline to the floor.  This will highlight the narrowness of your midsection and float over your hips and thighs. Be sure to choose a sturdier fabric that won’t stick to the areas you are uncomfortable about.

Large busted and want to showcase your assets?  A dress with a scooped neckline will open up your face and showcase you without showing too much cleavage.  Try choosing one that “dips” along the neckline rather than a “straight across” style. 

Plus sized?  An Empire dress with a skirt that begins just under your bust and flows to the floor will play up your shape.  Remember though, if it’s too loose; it will make you look larger.

Apple shape?  Avoid trumpet dresses that emphasize the area where your body is widest and flares out at the legs and knees where you are the most slender.

Many of us have “settled” for a dress we weren’t in love with and I’m one of them.  I ran out of time to find something I loved and hated the appearance of my arms but the worst part was the lack of support in the breast area that left me feeling “exposed.”  Ten years later, I still wish I had kept looking for a dress. 

Sometimes “settling” for a dress rather than continuing to look is the worst  decision that you will ever make!  I will always regret buying a dress that I didn’t love.  One day when I find the right dress, I plan to renew my vows and hopefully love my wedding photos rather than look at flaws and kick myself for buying something I wasn’t happy with.

Wendy & Matthew Wortham

Feeling good in what you’re wearing shows- if you feel great you look great!

Although I’m happy to meet with you and voice opinions regarding your favorites, the truth is that you must feel good in what you are wearing regardless what your friends & family or I think about the dress.  

Find something you feel glamorous and at least minimally comfortable in first then you can “tweak” your selection.

When I was selling Cadillac’s & Hummers from 2000-2004, choosing the right dress for my ads was key to a successful marketing and advertising campaign.  I often spent weeks searching for the perfect dress for a photo shoot.  

But, like my wedding dress, there were a few that I had to “find on the fly” that you can tell I wasn’t “thrilled” wearing by the look on my face.  Modeling a “rack” pulled by someone else who doesn’t know my taste because I couldn’t find a dress myself often left me feeling less than “glamorous.”

I Loved This Dress- The Color & The Cut Were Amazing

I Was Unhappy With This Skirt- It Made Me Feel Huge With The Free Flowing A Line

This Skirt Was Fun But It Wasn’t Flattering

I Was Uncomfortable With The Slit AND Overexposure On The Top Of This Gown

Finding the perfect dress should be more of a treasure hunt but make notes on what you liked about one dress along with what you didn’t like about the other.  Keep a journal of your “faves” and if possible, get photos and add to the journal to keep up with your likes and dislikes.

When you find “the one” you will know it and whether your friends like it or not—remember it’s your day not theirs!  Over the years I’ve had “moments” when I really felt good in a gown but it wasn’t an everyday occurence. 

Loved, Loved, Loved This Gown- Fit Like A Glove And The Flow Was Sexy & Fun

Wendy Wortham Cadillac XLR Ad 2004

Two Sets Of Twins- The Pawning Planners

Please don’t buy a dress too tight thinking that you will lose weight and be able to wear it- the stress and pressure to lose weight after the expense of your dress are a recipe for disaster. 

 
Love sneakers?  Wear them and go for comfort- you will be glad you did.  After all, who doesn’t love wedding photos with sass?!
  
Mermaid styles are elegant and dramatic if you have the figure to “pull it off.”  If you don’t, find something that celebrates your figure rather than suffocates you.

Belltower Chapel & Gardens

Villagio Resorts

Different Necklines For Bridesmaids? Yes- Every Woman Doesn’t “Fit” Into The Same Dress

  
Evening gowns are also far less expensive than a wedding dress so “changing things up” can save you money. 

A Train On Your Gown Or Not?

 Fit and Flare?  You bet! I loved the corset on the wedding dress below.

Willow Lake Event Center Ramirez Wedding

Consider a casual affair and dress in something you are comfortable in.

Last year a prospective client contacted me regarding a wedding in a nudist colony.  Frankly, I refuse to officiate at a wedding where you are wearing nothing but your birthday suit.  However, there are officiants and coordinators out there that may consider honoring your request although I’m not one of them.

Donated dresses or Property Of Wendy Wortham/Texas Twins Treasures provided on loan as a courtesy to clients booked through The Pawning Planners cannot be altered unless you purchased the dress.  Cleaning for loaned gowns is a requirement and payment is due prior to loaning the dress.

I hope this blog gives you direction and creative ideas for the dress of your dreams and encourage you to spend plenty of time searching for a winner…

Wendy M Wortham  

This morning after scouting a few locations and loading my SUV with photo props, I met Misty in Lake Worth, Texas.  My niece Leigh Ann and Maddy joined us as we jumped to several different locations in our caravan. 

Misty & My Niece Leigh Ann Blais

 As we headed to the location, I took a moment to ask how Misty had met Carl.  She told me that very few people knew how they had actually met but that she had a chance meeting while working as a guard in Breckenridge.  Misty would wait a full year later before becoming a pen pal and visiting Carl after he was transferred to Estes Unit in Venus, Texas. 

The Pawning Planners With Misty & Our Latest Little Pawner Madyson Blais

Leigh Ann & I Direct Misty For Poses

Photo By Leigh Ann Blais

Photo By Leigh Ann Blais

Photo By Leigh Ann Blais

Leigh Ann’s Daughter Madyson Blais

A few years ago, I had barely left my vehicle before being stopped and asked for a permit to officiate a wedding or a permit for photography.”  I was unaware of this strict rule and my client couldn’t afford the fees of $450 so, we were escorted out of the park.  I found a beautiful area anyway and we got some great photos because they were willing to trust my instincts and devastated they couldn’t afford the gardens.  I’m passionate enough to fix an unexpected issue even when it means spending a lot more time than I had expected to save the day! I explained to Leigh Ann and Misty that we “might get caught and kicked out,” but they decided to wing it and we did-in and out in 20 minutes.  We were as lucky as I was when my husband and I married there without ever knowing “the rules.”  I would have been horrified to have been caught and endure a walk of shame with my family and aunt witnessing an escort out for not having the permits.

Leigh Ann Photographs Misty

Misty & Leigh Ann Discuss Areas For Photos

Surprisingly, she loved my idea and said she had the most fun she’s ever had as I pulled over and said lets go!  

    
    
 Back at my home, we both laughed and laughed about our little excursion as I helped Misty out of her dress and corset.  We were ready to eat by the time we met up with Leigh Ann and showed her our “I just live here photos” on my phone.

I never planned on officiating at prisons but like everything else in my life- it happened.  My web designer, Michael Brylinski  is currently making changes for other “people on the outside” wanting an officiant.  Michael handles all of my websites and has been with me since starting Texas Twins Events 7 years ago. 

Michael also creates my logos so folks wanting to “help me with my websites or traffic,” I have to tell ya all that I am loyal to a fault and not interested in making any changes but appreciate you reaching out to me.  It’s essential that my web developer is just a text or phone call away for me.  Yesterday, Michael updated this website for people like Misty with nowhere to turn.  To view my latest expansion or for more information, visit this link-Information Regarding Inmate Weddings With Wendy Wortham.

Site Updates-Texas Twins Events Inmate Weddings With Wendy Wortham

Expanding and rebranding to take on Prison Weddings is something that I never expected to happen because I had no idea of the need existed but it does and sometimes any business venture is surprising with new twist and turns.  I rebranded and expanded Texas Twins Events & Texas Twins Treasures to create The Pawning Planners when families came to me with no money so rebranding and expanding to address Prison Weddings isn’t the first “surprising” thing that has happened the past 7 years.

When I started this business, Cindy traveled with me to capture photos as a courtesy to clients after I realized they couldn’t afford to hire a photographer on their own.  A few years later, my son and his wife joined to handle photography after I realized that Cindy was often busy helping me with event coordination. 

Robert & Stephanie Hafele

  For anyone unaware of the importance of having photos of their event (whether they can afford them or not) it should be noted that whenever the family hasn’t hired a photographer, I bring my own photographers & put photos on a disc at no cost to them and have for 7 years.  Stephanie’s  plan to sell a photo back that she had edited and added a copyright on to the grieving family rather than giving it to them goes against everything I have set out to do.  We haven’t spoken to each other since last Saturday’s wedding either.

Stephanie also takes weeks to edit photos and clients would like their photos ASAP, because of this–I always have a spare camera and disc to upload photos myself for families.  Her “idea” to edit photos and add my Texas Twins Events logo would prevent clients from printing photos.  I don’t do that so I’m not going to let anyone else do it either.

Being an “open and honest” person and blogger, I always “thrown in” accurate details of team conflict and never sugar coat the head butting “incidents” with Stephanie Hafele because she has problems getting along with everyone on my team–IE: not just me.

Stephanie told me that she plans to start her own FB photography page and book her own clients.  Which translates to “I’m not coming to events with you anymore and I’m planning to make a living on my own.”  I told her that’s great because the last year, she was rarely on location due to her new to me demand of $250 an hour.  I don’t have to use Stephanie-I have my son, my sister, my niece and myself that all are capable of taking photos on location.

Several months ago, I wanted “all hands on deck” for a once in a lifetime opportunity to officiate a wedding at Carswell AFB on the Tarmac and in a C130.  Naturally, Stephanie was busy and unavailable to join us at the wedding.  My son, sister, step daughter and I handled the hair and make up, photography and officiating ourselves.  While it is true that we may have “missed a shot” because we were short handed because Leigh Ann was in California, we still managed to get video and photos for our thrilled couple as evidenced in this blog-Carswell AFB Dream Wedding With My Team.

For years, the ongoing battle of who is the best photographer around here continues!  Last weekend my twin sister took this photo of me and I said it was one of my favorites while Stephanie disagreed and advised me that “cell phone photos are never great photos. 

I take the best photos and I always have.”  Stephanie is convinced that no one (including my niece or her husband)  can compete with her artistry.  

To hear it from her, I would be lost without her skill set.  But after learning she had held onto that photo of Lisa for two years without handing it over,  I am willing to risk it.  Head butting for 5 years with Stephanie continues to wear me out and I list who accompanied me to events to point out when Stephanie doesn’t which lights her up.  With my daughter in law it’s “all about the money!”  She loses sight of the fact that half my business is with people who have very little or no money.

I told my niece Leigh Ann what had happened over the Lisa Williams photo and asked for her help with Misty because (for obvious reasons), I wasn’t going to ask Stephanie Hafele!  

Stephanie “thinks” she should get paid $250 an hour because she works at Smiley’s Photography and considers herself a professional photographer BUT the clients who benefit from complimentary photography don’t have $250 an hour and why on earth should my daughter in law expect to be paid more than I am?  After all, without my businesses and equipment-there wouldn’t be an opportunity to keep a photo taken at my event and with my equipment!

Arguments with my daughter in law who lacks the compassion that I do and my vision are a regular occurence.  My son was raised to put others before himself-he is compassionate about their story and our journey but his wife is another story altogether.  I make the rules not Stephanie and trying to convince her is an ongoing battle.  

A week prior to the photo shoot with Misty, I had told her Stephanie would do her photos but after our argument, I had to explain why Leigh Ann was taking her place.  After hearing my reasons why-Misty looked at me and said “if you hadn’t done this for me, no one would.  My friends asked what you are charging me for all of this and hours of your time and I told them you weren’t.  They couldn’t believe that anyone would go out of their way to provide a free photo shoot and photos.  But you’re different-you actually care.”  She was right, I don’t try “to stick it to anyone” and I never will.

While driving Misty back to her car, I admitted that I’m melancholy about Friday since the location is far from joyous but assured her that one day when Carl is released, my team and I will meet her and shoot traditional wedding photos.

Since many are interested in what I charged Misty for today’s photo shoot and lunch–we didn’t.  Her circumstances and situation warranted our help.  I go above and beyond because I care and my niece understands the importance of photos.  She started out shooting her daughter Maddy for the numerous brands young Madyson represents and loved photography so much that she decided to help me while building her own portfolio.  Coming Soon- Maddy & Me Photography Sessions with Leigh Ann Blais.

    
 Misty really enjoyed having Maddy along for our all day adventure and had a great time with us.

Friday I will see Misty again at Estes Unit in Venus, Texas.  Although I’ve read your comments and concerns regarding Inmate or Prison Weddings and understand your feelings, these couples may have extenuating circumstances but they are couples and they are planning for a future together beyond the bars…

Wendy M Wortham 

Every now and then, I encounter a mother who is so gung ho about the way “she wants things” that I have to step back and find a way of granting the brides wishes while not stepping on any toes since the mother is often footing the bill.

My sister and I usually have an exceptional sense of humor but now and then even we can be at our whits end when others “butt in” with ideas or expectations that weren’t a part of our participation.  Cindy gets some of her best material from these buttinsckie types for her #Cindyism Quotes used on Pawning Planners Apparel.  

Cindy Daniel & Wendy Wortham- The Pawning Planners

Last week one of these “meddlers” was so intent on running the show that the rehearsal took over an hour and a half because she wanted to be more involved.  The problem? She wasn’t in the wedding party and she felt “left out.”  We finally decided that she would give the bride away with the father (although they were divorced) in order for her to feel she played a bigger role.

At another wedding, the mother of the groom wanted her favorite Scriptures read during the ceremony.  The problem? The mother of the bride who wanted no religious references made since “she was paying for everything and would prefer for the other mother not to talk to me about what she wants because she wasn’t paying me.”  More often than not, both sets of parents have very strong views regarding religious reference.  

Since it is well known that a large percentage of my clients from Texas Twins Events & The Pawning Planners are LBGTQ, I will address concerns from those contacting me about their “issues regarding same sex marriage” by reaffirming my belief that Love Is Love and these types of emails will not sway my belief that every client is treated with respect and courtesy regardless of their Religious Beliefs, Lifestyle or anything else that might make them “different.”  

I’ve been asked why I offer year round discounts to LBGTQ clients, Military, Fire, Police and other organizations- the answer is that many of my family members are active or retired Military and/or Fire, Rescue or First Responders and many of my friends are LBGTQ but also because these clients are courteous and easy to work with which (in this industry) is priceless.  Working with Clients that appreciate your efforts makes our jobs easier and more importantly, a pleasant experience for everyone involved. 

I have never had to argue or “stand my ground” with an unruly guest or relative at these events and therefore, go to great lengths to accommodate them including offering year round discounts to Active or Retired Military, Police, Fire or First Responders. 

A few years ago, I nearly quit a wedding after encountering a “tipsy” mother at the rehearsal who was determined to make all the rules, choosing the exact location and expecting me to provide tables and chairs.  The problem?  I was hired to officiate and coordinate with my team handling photography along with loaned bouquets and bouteniers, a cake stand and champagne flutes and don’t rent chairs or tables.  I go over every detail at client meetings and adding chairs and or tables was never discussed with the couple.  

I suggested the mother go to Taylor’s Rentals and rent the tables and chairs if they were important to her because obviously, her daughter saw no need for tables and chairs.  The cost of transporting tables and chairs along with the rental fee was easily $250 which surprised the mother somewhat but transporting and setting up tables and chairs isn’t free for me or anyone else.

A few of the photos from that event will give you far more insight than anything I could say to describe the combative attitude my team and I faced trying to get through the wedding process.  The mother is under the couple in the photo below.  

It takes a lot for me to walk away from an event but—this site lists Bridezilla and Guestzilla Clauses for a very good reason- experience!  It doesn’t take me long to figure out who wants to “stir the chili” at an event because when you’ve been in this business as long as I have- you’ve seen nearly everything.

The next issue involved with that wedding was my loaned bouquets for the wedding party.  The mother wanted to keep hers because “it’s my daughters wedding and I want a souvenier to remember it with.” After explaining that I loan bouquets and bouteniers to hundreds of clients every year and I couldn’t afford to “give away” my inventory, I offered to sell it to her for $175.00 and another argument ensued over what her daughter had paid me for and “why can’t you just throw this bouquet in?” 

In a world where everyone wants something for nothing or believes that they should get more than what they have paid for,  I knew the mother of the bride was a problem at the rehearsal, and would most likely challenge me on wedding day so,  I brought a copy of the contract to the wedding that not only outlined exactly what my team and I were hired to do but also what I was loaning for the wedding and the terms involved to borrow inventory that include lost or damaged floral designs and a fee.  

After reading the contract, the mother finally stopped giving me reasons that she deserved to keep her loaned bouquet.  As a consolation prize, I offered to mail a photo disc to the mother so she would have her own photos and effectively won the battle.

Keeping my inventory has become an issue on more times than anyone realizes which is why I don’t allow tossing a loaned bouquet.  A few years ago, a Pawning Planners Bride tossed her loaned bouquet (although I had asked her not to in order to prevent damage)  and the guest who caught it decided that it was now hers because “she caught it fair and square.”  

After detailing my reasons for loaning bouquets and bouteniers to this unruly guest, I added that no one else in the world would have loaned everything to pull that wedding together and I have never met a Flower Fairy who replaced my designs simply because everyone wanted to keep them which was a bit of a surprise to this unruly guest but I wasn’t leaving without my inventory and whether she liked it or not, I wasn’t going to allow her to keep something just because she felt entitled to it.

Creating an inventory took time and money on my end no one gave me the supplies or spent hours creating my designs but for some reason, I continue to run across folks who think they should get what they want regardless of whether they paid for the item or not.

If I’m loaning centerpieces, bouquets or bouteniers, cake trays, champagne flutes, tablecloths, napkins, serving sets, etc. I require a signed contract detailing exactly what I’m loaning, the number of items I’m loaning and the cost to replace lost or broken items for clients of Texas Twins Events and The Pawning Planners.

Normally, I do not loan any inventory to anyone not booking through Texas Twins Events or The Pawning Planners.  My reasons for these “rules” are that I created an inventory as a courtesy to My Clients and not strangers.  On rare occasions, I bend my own rules based on the situation but it’s not an everyday occurrence.  Exceptions involve fundraising for numerous charitable organizations that my team and I are affiliated with.

It should be noted that my team and I “dance with the one that brought us” at events and have learned over the years that there are often far too many Chiefs on site now and then aka Inlaws & Outlaws but the person (or persons) who are actually in charge are the one (or ones) that hired myself and/or my team and not the person (or persons) who bothered to show up at an event and assumed they were in a position of power.  

Everyone on my team has a role at our events and those roles are dictated by me not by anyone else.  Please don’t “direct” my staff if you are not the client or ask them to do something that we were not hired to do.  

I’m going to give a few examples of such requests to enlighten other vendors who often read my blogs-  “the caterer is short staffed.  I need you to go serve food.”  Here’s another good one, “the toilet won’t flush- I need you to go take care of it.”  

If we are at a venue, the venue owner is going to handle plumbing or a/c issues not my team.  If you hired a caterer, you (hopefully) discussed having enough servers on hand too.  

It’s impossible for us to do the job we were hired to do and be expected to “fix” everything else that can (and does) go wrong on location.  

We don’t mind helping but we do have limits.  On far too many occasions, we have “fixed” problems that were not our responsibility that have included short orders from florists who forgot the bouteniers or repairing a gown that was torn or mend a broken zipper along with a host of other unexpected “incidents.”  One of the most memorable “Incidents” Would be the Broken Tooth Bouncing Checks Bride.  She had written me a hot check for her deposit and a second hot check for her balance and had broken her front tooth minutes prior to the wedding.  Attempting to glue her tooth back on, my finger became glued to the tooth while I advised her that she would need to “settle her account” and preferably in cash.  A nail file was used to free my bloody finger and the second hot check was put in an envelope and handed to my assistant Anne.  Yes, I’ve seen a lot, experienced a lot and learned a lot so, if I sound “salty,” I have my reasons. 

Due to the ongoing issue of who makes the rules or who is in charge at events, my contracts now list (in order) clients first, second and third “Lead Person” if they are unavailable to make a decision or too busy. 

Having 3 to 4 people tell me what they “think” so and so wants isn’t accurate or detailed enough and the client answered three pages of questions detailing exactly what they wanted and more importantly, exactly what they were paying for and could expect from myself or my team.  The client is well aware of the terms when booking with Texas Twins Events or bartering through The Pawning Planners even when their guests or Inlaws may not be aware of the details themselves.

The curiosity of TDCJ (Texas Department Of Criminal Justice) Weddings continues to pop up and more than a few readers doubt the longevity of my clients commitment, so today I’m including two photos of happy couples.  Yes, yes, I know many of you cannot understand why they are happy but believe me they are.

These couples are families just like any other family that I’ve married and although it may seem odd to a few folks, I talked to each client extensively regarding their choice to marry a prisoner and the hurdles they would face.  These couples aren’t planning for the present- they are planning for the future and many of them knew each other long before Prison.  

These families were honored and delighted that I Officiated their weddings and while the location may not have been “ideal,” we made the most of it with Bridal photo shoots so every bride felt as special as they are.  Giving them an opportunity to “feel like a bride” is the reason we offer a service at no cost to them.  All of my TDCJ Brides find the “highlight” of their wedding day to be at the impromptu photo shoots we stage near Prison Units.

Coffield Unit- Mr & Mrs Fontenot

Sanders Estes Unit- Mr & Mrs Madison

I review emails regarding Prison Marriage on a regular basis and although it may not be for everyone, my Brides are happy and well adjusted and know what they are getting into. 

Officiating at a Prison is quite different than a venue, backyard or barn.  There are no “Meddlers” on site because the process is strictly outlined.  Relatives accompanying a bride are quite friendly and honored that I’m helping their daughter to have the wedding she wants.  

No one is telling me what they want me to say or what they want other than the couple which makes the task far easier for me.  Everyone is happy, friendly and very cordial at a Prison and treat me with respect that every now and then, I don’t find at other traditional weddings or events.  The truth is that I enjoy the structure of a Prison Wedding because there are never any surprises.  I know what to expect, the clients know what to expect and things flow smoothly for all concerned.

I’ve also officiated at Military Bases and have noticed that both Military & Prison Weddings have the structure and discipline that many other “traditional” weddings do not.  Both have someone in charge and everyone else follows the rules.  There are no drunken guests or outrageous behavior going on at a Military Base or Prison I can assure you.  There aren’t ever unruly guests (or relatives) at a base or Prison and if there are, I’ve never encountered them.

Truthfully, when you work with the public, you are dealing with sometimes unreasonable people…coming to terms with what will or won’t work isn’t an easy conversation for anyone but, it’s an important aspect of Event Planning & Officiating that must be addressed for any client (or their families) when planning and executing a Dream Event or any other service we offer.  Conflict Resolution often comes in handy for me when dealing with two completely different families that often have different ideas or desires for their son or daughter.

I love to sing but, I’m not a singer.  Over the years, I’ve had a few unique opportunities to “belt out a song” due to problems with the DJ.  

At one wedding while waiting for the bride to approach the altar, I asked “what’s wrong?” The DJ admitted that he didn’t have the music with him.  I quickly asked “what’s the song?”  

Luckily, I knew the words and asked the guests to join me singing Here Comes The Sun.  

Life Events happen only once.  There are no “do overs” or second chances.  Saving the day often requires quick thinking on my part.

A few days ago, a bride marrying at TDCJ Estes Unit asked if she could bring clothing for her fiancée and, music.  I quickly replied that the only items she is allowed to bring are her state issued ID and the Marriage License.  

You can imagine my surprise at being asked to sing a song she had chosen.  This was a bit of a shock but, I’m open minded and try to accommodate any request whenever possible.

This bride will also be arriving at the Greyhound Bus Terminal after asking me if I drive to pick up clients then take them to the Unit and finally, drive them home.  Houston is 4 hours one way from me and due to the mileage and time involved, I suggested public transit.  I will pick Lutniva up at the Fort Worth Terminal and drive her to TDCJ Estes Unit and then return her to the Terminal.  

I’ve decided to read the song rather than attempt to sing it.  Lutniva after hearing my broken rendition, agreed that singing would be a bad idea.  Accommodating any request can be a hilarious adventure for my team and I.  

Dressing up as Elvis a few years ago after yet another Creative Request, I was asked to sing a few Elvis hits and although I knew the words..left guests laughing at my inability to properly mimic Elvis or his hip swing.

A few months ago, I read a text from a beautiful Military bride I married in July 2016.  Deanna wanted a Baptism for her baby and I was thrilled to hear she was pregnant. Sadly, the Baptism in June will be followed by a Funeral as the baby is not expected to survive beyond a week.  

This news broke my heart.  Deanna has asked me to Officiate the Baptism and Funeral Ceremony.  

As many of my dedicated readers know, a Celebration Of Life is far harder on me for a child.  I’m keeping Deanna’s family in my prayers for a miracle that will save this baby and ask that my readers do the same.

A few years ago, Kimberly Stine requested a birthday party.  I contacted her to better understand if she was needing party planning services for a child or herself. 

Kimberly wanted a birthday party for herself because she had grown up very poor and never had a party.  

After speaking with my team, it was decided that we would buy the gifts, the cake and other items and meet Kimberly in the park to celebrate and sponsor her birthday.  

A few years ago, I brought my twin grandnieces, Maryssa and Makenna along with my twin sister, an SUV full of party favors and met my son and daughter in law at the park– Texas Twins Events Sponsors A Birthday Party.

Since Kimberly’s husband has been struggling with cancer treatments the past year, I decided to once again throw Kimberly a birthday party and have scheduled it for March 31.  

Sponsoring two birthday parties for the same person may sound odd to other vendors but, I’m well aware that Kimberly needs something to celebrate in her life.

Few people understand why I’m so open minded regarding requests but, struggling through a loved ones cancer treatment merits “a break” as far as I’m concerned and, Kimberly is thrilled and excited to see my family again.

Nearly four years ago, an exotic dancer requested a baby shower and gifts since she couldn’t work in her condition.  

Not being one to judge anyone, my team and I set about buying baby gift and planning her party— The Stripper Baby Shower That Saved Amanda. When you’re pregnant, single and unable to work- you need help. Amanda’s parents are both deceased and she had nowhere else to go for help. I’m proud to announce that Amanda returned to school and furthered her education and now has a far suitable job for not only herself but also her children.

 It’s not uncommon for someone to email me with a “you did that?” Question regarding either the client or their circumstances.

My family and I have saved many people from losing their homes after a job loss or illness by hosting a Pawning Party. To better explain what a Pawning Party is and how it works, I’m adding a blog link- Pawning Parties Are Rent Parties.

A Pawning Party requires me to advertise the sale, go into their homes with my team and find something of significant value or the sell the entire home full of goods to sell and help them pay their rent or mortgage.  

Living without any furniture isn’t a fun choice but, keeping a roof over their heads is far more important.

Sure, I will be the first to admit that a few of our events are “different” and our clients are “different” too but, hundreds of people contact me because they have nowhere else to turn.

Every event or family is different.  From a fence party to a stripper baby shower to a wedding, funeral, baptism, Texas Prison Weddings,  and event a rent or Pawning Party- finding a solution to every problem a prospect brings to me involves a family meeting if it’s something we haven’t done before.  By having an entire team- everyone brings their own unique talent to the table.

The clients needing a Pawning Party don’t have friends, family or even savings.  When you are facing losing your home, it is a very desperate situation. It’s sad but, it’s true. My initial concept of doing weddings alone flew out the window 8 years ago.  Within months of going live, I was asked to provide decorations for a cancer remission party.  A few days later, a funeral.  

I’ve rebranded and expanded to address any request because I never wanted to turn anyone away.  Knowing that all these families came to me with nowhere else to turn was a very important aspect of their desperation. 

Two years ago, Cindy and I reviewed requests for two friends needing a baby shower and more importantly, baby gifts.  Since Brooke and Joanna knew each other, it was decided that we would buy the gifts and hold the double baby shower at CiCi’s Pizza- Texas Twins Events Gives Back To Two Expectant Mothers.

Many of my cyber squatters and fellow event vendors don’t understand why my family and I will help anyone.  To better understand the reasons or where the money comes from, I will explain.  I knew from personal experience that many people were forced to go to the JP without the photos, flowers or fun of a “real wedding.” After struggling through Thyroid cancer, my gigantic custom home (built by my husband of course) was overwhelming after my son moved out.  Five bedrooms and four baths on an acre with a pool to keep up were just too much.  My husband and I decided to sell the home we had built at cost and downsize.  

My half of the Profit was a gift from my husband to go out and start a business that I would enjoy with my twin sister by finally having the time to spend together we had lost after thirty years of me working “for the man.” My decision to start a low cost event business that would help anyone shocked the rest of my family (as usual) but, they eventually caught on to my Friend Of The Friendless Philosophy.  I’ve never turned anyone away and I’ve never turned down a request that might have been “unusual.”  I listened to their needs and issues and together my family and I solved them.

My twin sister and I are pretty creative and can make or fix nearly anything.  The reason for this is that we grew up poor.  We make bouquets, bouteniers and centerpieces that are “loaned” to families that cannot afford to provide their own floral designs.  “Loaning Inventory” is unheard of in this industry but, by doing so, our clients save hundreds of dollars.

For those who can afford to buy floral designs, we also sell custom floral designs as well as refurbished trades that were initially bartered through The Pawning Planners at Texas Twins Treasures.Revenue from sales and bookings with paying clients through Texas Twins Events along with sales of items at Texas Twins Treasures and our custom floral designs is how we fund and effectively, sponsor families out of our own pockets year after year.My twin sister and I are a TwinTeam.  We do everything together and not surprisingly, two halves make a whole.  While Cindy can repair or fix any problem on location, she is also an experienced planner and Minister.  

Her real art is her comic talent and ability to make anyone laugh regardless of how stressful an unexpected issue on location may be.  I’m OCD and hate surprises.  

Cindy loves the unexpected and handles chaotic control with a flair that would surprise anyone meeting her for the first time. From the broken tooth bride to the drunken father of the bride to the Groom that refused to drive to the wedding ceremony to the flasher at a destination wedding or the mariachi band that had transportation issues, we’ve handled hundreds of incidents that had nothing to do with what we had been hired for. That’s right. You will never hear either me or my team say “that’s not my job.” Events take dedication, perseverance and patience.  If another vendor flubs it on location, we work to fix it. 

Cindy takes problems on the chin while I (literally) have a meltdown because my perfectly orchestrated event appears to be going to Hell in a hand basket.  Cindy loves excitement and I hate it.  

At a wedding in Fort Worth, the mother of the bride continued to “butt in” and interrupt my ceremony.  Cindy walked over to her and started a conversation to occupy her enough to let me finish.  Cindy’s ability to detect and resolve an issue or incident on location is remarkable.We have a term for the “chaos creators.”  Inlaws or Outlaws referenced in blogs and social media posts are the people you invited to your event that you shouldn’t have.  

These Inlaws and Outlaws disrupt every aspect of a well orchestrated event.  Usually because they’ve been drinking or they don’t want you to get married or it’s a family reunion or other event where a few folks are feuding.

At Joanna Magee’s Wedding, her brother arrived drunk, hit on my makeup artist, Angela Rodden and daughter in law, Stephanie Hafele and continued to interrupt me.  Shocking isn’t it? Inlaws and Outlaws are surprising and unpredictable.  

After hours of hair and makeup, Joanna felt beautiful wearing the dress I had “gifted her.” Going above and beyond (as usual) I also bought clothing for her two sons and cowboy hats.  

Joanna was a “sponsored” bride. Joanna wanted the wedding she could never afford on her own and, after hearing her story, my staff and I were “all in.”

My family and I rallied around to give her the wedding she had always wanted but, her brother did everything he could to ruin in including smashing cake in her face and on her wedding dress.I cannot make this stuff up ya all, if you have a friend or family member that you know is a problem, do everyone a favor and don’t invite them!  Shockingly, Joanna’s mother and father did nothing to control her beer swilling brother.  

Because of the Joanna Magee Wedding and the Banjo Playing Boyfriend who disrupted another wedding by strolling down the aisle singing, I now have security at events to alleviate the issue of having to attempt to conduct a ceremony and control an unruly and, uninvited guest.  

The banjo playing boyfriend “busted through” the church doors singing “One Is The Loneliest Number” at a Fort Worth church for a Military Couple. Standing between the couple and officiating the ceremony, I asked if they had hired a singer?  The Bride patiently answered “no, it’s my old boyfriend.”  

Horrified, I used my arms to separate the couple and go down the aisle to stop this unwanted singer from joining us at the altar.  Trying to wrestle him out of the church, he continued to yell “I love you” to the Bride.  I’ve had moments where even I couldn’t believe the lengths others would go to in order to ruin a wedding.  

Eight years after starting Texas Twins Events, I’ve learned (much to my dismay) that Funerals are even more shocking.  The event business often requires you to literally “fly by the seat of your pantsuit!”

Our dear friend, Bill Bean has requested my Texas Twins Events Team to coordinate his book signing and we are excited to once again be in the company of Bill.  I will keep you posted on the dates and location.

Cindy and I are also excited and honored that Michael Yorba has invited us to his TV Show as guests.  We are (obviously) “different” from other guests on the show and honest about the successes and setbacks of changing the wedding and events industry one family (or barter) at a time from Fort Worth, Texas with our family.

As I run off to a Prison Wedding, I’m thankful that I haven’t been asked to sing…

Every year during Wedding Season, I hear from someone who either married abroad or forgot to file their license or even lost their signed Marriage License. 

A lot of planning goes into your Marriage. From the cake to the caterers to the dress and more–your Wedding is a Life Event. Weddings are traditionally, meant to happen once hence the term, Life Event.

Marriage is a process. First, you find the love of your life. Second, you plan and prepare for your wedding. Often, the last item on your list is to purchase a Marriage License. The reason for this is that Licenses expire. 

Upon the purchase of your license, you will need to find an accredited Officiant to perform your wedding ceremony and most importantly, sign your and file the license unless you choose to file it yourself.

If your license requires witnesses, advise them to write within the lines and never mark through or scribble out anything on the document. If I’m Officiating your ceremony, I always “go over” this detail. Anyone on my staff Officiating will go over this as well. 

Over the years, I’ve had a few unexpected “incidents” occur during the signing of the license that no one (including me) could expect. People can be unpredictable as anyone in the Events industry can attest to. 

Events can be chaotic which is why we always try to get the License signed immediately following the ceremony. 

On numerous occasions, I will often take the signed document straight to my vehicle and store it in a briefcase for safe keeping. 

Losing a Marriage License on your Wedding Day is never a good idea. If I arrive for your ceremony and no one knows where the License is– you will need to find it. Please have someone responsible bring your License to the wedding. Last year while signing, a witness continued writing after a scream took my attention to the dance floor where a guest had passed out. The problem? In the moment it took for me to turn away and direct Cindy to help the guest on the dance floor, the witness “corrected” her old address by drawing a line through it and adding her new address under the address line. This “correction” prevented the license from being filed and recorded in Santa Barbara County. 

Getting a call from the Clerk’s Office regarding a “mark out” on a Marriage License is every Officiants worst nightmare.

To solve the issue, I flew back to California and filed an Amended Petition at the Santa Barbara courthouse. If you are Officiating a wedding and a problem with the Marriage License occurs, it’s YOUR responsibility to correct the situation. 

Understand that whether you are “familiar” with the process of signing and filing a License or not, your signature carries a lot of responsibility on your part. 

At another wedding several years ago, the brother of the bride smashed cake in her face while I was signing her license and with the pen in my hand on the license, the bride bumped into me causing my scripted signature to go out of the line. 

Luckily, the clerks office didn’t make a big issue of going off the line a few centimeters but, I was more than a little concerned walking the license into the Parker County Courthouse.

Finding a quiet area to sign a license after a wedding is important to not only me but also your witnesses. We are signing a legal document and although I’m sure your guests wish to celebrate- I always take my time to sign, add my address, the county and the time before instructing witnesses if they are required. 

It’s very unusual to have a guest pass out or a groom to be tossed up and effectively stuck in the patio lights or a brother trying to be funny and ruining the wedding cake  but— it’s happened. Having a Bride (yes, it’s usually the Bride) run screaming “my wedding has been ruined,” because her brother smashed cake in her face and knocked me over it her witness made a correction on her address is more than a little stressful. 

I cannot control your guests or unexpected events from occurring. If your wedding includes an Open Bar, I prefer to get the License taken care of prior to wedding photos or anything else. The reason for this is that if your License requires a witness, I want them to be sober.  

Repairing a marriage certificate is a legal process and if I’m in another state Officiating your wedding, it can be an expensive one. 

To amend a petition, I must travel to the clerks office the license was purchased at and file an Amended Marriage License. I cannot stress this enough– never mark through anything on a Marriage License. It will save us both a lot of trouble. 

I bring my own pen to Weddings because having a pen run out of ink while signing a License isn’t a good idea. 

Never let a witness sign your license without an Officiant present. The reasons for this should be obvious but, I will explain. If your friends or family members sign where my signature should be, the license isn’t valid. 

I’ve signed well over 800 Marriage Licenses in different states and counties and am therefore well aware that they all are different in one form or another. Having a witness sign your license is an honor but, without supervision, it can assuredly, be a disaster. 

Today, I’m going to go over the importance of running back to the courthouse with your signed license if you choose to file it yourself along with other important aspects of the legal process of a Marriage.

Marriage is a legal and binding relationship. Ask anyone going through a divorce how easy it was to get married and how difficult it was to get a divorce and you have a far better idea of why I always caution someone having second thoughts about marrying to wait if they don’t feel fully committed about the wedding.

I encourage most clients to take a Premarital Class. Why? Because the happy moments I’ve shared with you at your wedding are important to me. My desire for every couple I’ve to stay happily married might seem odd but, I care and want every couple to withstand the test of time.

A few of my clients choose to have a Prenuptial Agreement especially if it’s a 2nd or 3rd wedding. Why? Experience. A divorce and subsequent division of your assets is enlightening to say the least. 

Many Prenuptial Agreements also benefit both parties by having a payout clause should the Marriage not survive. Don’t take it personally if your fiancé suggests a Premarital Agreement. 

Instead, try understanding that if one party is significantly more financially secure than the other, this Agreement is to protect their assets in the event of a divorce.

Should a divorce occur, you may want to consider a Rule 11 Agreement and skip the attorneys to save you both a lot of money and stress. It’s an option few attorneys suggest because let’s face it, lawyers only get paid when they are working and no attorney is in a hurry to “settle” a divorce. 

I’m being honest and not intending to offend any of my connections who happen to be attorneys. 

Tens of thousands of dollars are spent on divorce attorneys and child custody battles. If you loved each other enough to marry, consider loving each other enough to settle on a Rule 11 Agreement. 

Texas is the ONLY state that offers a discount on Marriage Licenses if the couple have taken a Pre Marital Course with Two Together In Texas. This course also waives the three day waiting period in Texas.Years ago, when my schedule wasn’t so booked, I taught these classes but I rarely have time which is why I suggest going through the site to take the online course instead. 

I’m adding the link for your convenience— Two Together In Texas Online Course. After completing the 8 hour handbook, you can download your certificate and take it with you to the Clerks office for a $60 discount of the license and waiver.

Filing a Marriage License is a regular occurrence for me since I conduct well over 100 wedding ceremonies every year. I often give Clients the option of filing it themselves if they need it back quickly. 

The reason for this is that when I file it, the clerk mails it back to the couple which can take 2-3 weeks depending on whether its wedding season or not. What this means is that your license will be recorded and mailed back in the order that it was received. 

If 40-50 people are married on the same weekend as you- be prepared to wait a few weeks to receive your license back. 

If you need your license quickly, you can file it in person and after recording it, the clerk will hand it back to you. You will need to file your Marriage License at your earliest convenience if you chose to file it yourself.

The problem that has occurred when a client chose to file their marriage license rather than have me file it for them is that it becomes lost or they forget to file it which is a very big problem. 

Marriage Licenses have a shelf life. If you cannot commit to filing your signed license in a timely manner because you are going on a honeymoon or moving or for another reason- it is in your best interest to hand the license to me or someone on my staff Officiating.

I file Marriage Licenses on Monday, Wednesday and Friday every week in person. If your license is outside Tarrant or Dallas County, I sent it priority mail and certify the package so I can not only track it but, also confirm it was received at the Clerks Office.

I’m adding my blog pertaining to Marriage Fraud for your review– Marriage Fraud- What Is It & What You Should Know. Many readers are surprised to learn that having a “friend” Officiate your wedding can be a great way to save money but, if they’ve made a mistake on your License the savings weren’t worth it. 

Due to Immigration Laws constantly changing– Marriage Laws may change as well. Be aware that if you plan to marry and your partner isn’t a US Citizen, you will be under scrutiny. Running off to get married will not supersede legal requirements that couples must meet. 

Public Speaking isn’t for the faint hearted but, failing to follow Protocol and understand the role of a wedding Officiant when your “friend” is Officiating may have more surprises than the laughs you initially expected. 

Friends are not familiar with the process of Officiating, or signing and filing a Marriage License. These “friends” have lost Licenses too. 

How do I know? Frantic couples calling me after learning they aren’t legally married. Friends shouldn’t let friends Officiate their wedding. When you consider the amount of money you’ve invested in your Life Event, are mistakes or friendships worth it? 

I have Emergency Fees for a very solid reason. Couples and families “flipping out” that their friend or other Officiant failed to show up or worse, they thought they were married by someone else and later found out that they weren’t because their “friend” never filed the Marriage License. 

Would you let your friend do you taxes? Balance your checking account? Diagnose your medical problem? No. You wouldn’t. 

If your license has expired, I will not sign a Marriage License that is no longer valid. Continued emails that begin with “my license has expired before I could find an Officiant” are all answered in the same manner. “I’m terribly sorry to hear that but, you will need to visit the clerks office and purchase a new license. Contact me after completing the process.”

You are not required to be a Texas resident to marry in Texas or any other state. You can go to any county clerks office and request a Marriage License. I do NOT provide Marriage Licenses. The county clerk does.

A few years ago, I met a couple at the Fort Worth Water Gardens who wanted to be married. The problem? They didn’t have a Marriage License and expected that I would have one. 

If you have questions regarding your Marriage, it’s best to ask questions prior to the ceremony rather than assume. A wedding without a Marriage License isn’t a wedding. I do NOT provide Marriage Licenses. The County Clerk does. Marriage Licenses are NOT free. 

If you cannot afford to purchase a Marriage License, you should probably reconsider marrying or taking the Two Together In Texas Class which isn’t free either but, for $29 you can save $60 of the cost of a Marriage License which in the long run, saves you $30-31 in Tarrant County and other Texas Vital Records offices. 

Please don’t ask anyone on my staff to sign a Marriage License without a wedding ceremony. There MUST be a wedding ceremony in order to sign a Marriage License. It’s the law. Simply signing a Marriage License without having the ceremony isn’t an option.

Traditionally, Marriage Ceremonies require both parties present and although Texas does allow Proxy Marriage. Proxy Marriage is no longer valid in Texas Prisons and now only available to Military Persons. 

Due to the fraudulent abuse of Proxy Marriage, many states no longer allow it. Texas is one of the very states that continue to honor Proxy Marriage but no longer allow Proxy Marriage of an Inmate. The Rules and Laws associated with Texas Inmate Marriages changed a few years ago. 

Texas does not allow “Confidential Marriage” either. Your Marriage will be public and unless you live in California or another state, sealing your license is not an option.

If your Marriage License has been signed and never filed, you are not married. Filing of the Marriage License is what completes the legal process of marrying. The clerk must receive and record the Marriage License in order for the marriage to be binding.

For those contacting me that thought they were legally married and later realized that the person they entrusted to perform their ceremony failed to follow guidelines– you can remarry and redo your ceremony but, your previous marriage date will be changed. Why? Because you will need to get a new Marriage License and have a new ceremony.

Mistakes or other issues from a wedding ceremony outside the USA are far more common than anyone realizes. I’m contacted on a regular basis by Couples who “thought they were legally married.” 

If you are marrying outside of the US, ask questions and even consider consulting an attorney. If you don’t, it can be a very real and very expensive problem.

A few months ago, I read an email from a Bride who had spent tens of thousands of dollars to marry in Jamaica with her friends and family. 

Her beautiful ceremony with photos and all was an expensive endeavor but, when she contacted her husbands insurance company to add herself, she was surprised to learn that her exotic wedding wasn’t legal. 

The paperwork of weddings is essential to the legal process of actually being married. To solve the problem without either family knowing that the couple weren’t actually married in Jamaica, I performed a small and intimate ceremony with their new Texas Marriage License and effectively, fixed the issue by marrying them.

A Marriage without a ceremony and License are referred to as commitment ceremonies but, they are not legal.

Since I’m frequently contacted regarding Common Law Marriage which is legal in Texas, there is a process if you want your union recognized. 

Texas County Clerks have an Affidavit for Common Law Marriage. Couples choosing to skip the Marriage Ceremony and License but, you must both be present and you must both sign and file the instrument. 

What this means is that saying you are Common Law Married and proving it without filing an Affidavit can be a very difficult process. I’m adding the link to the Affidavit for your review– Texas Common Law Marriage Affidavit.

I strongly advise anyone believing that by claiming you are Common Law Married to educate themselves to the hurdles of proving it especially in Probate Court! 

If you do NOT want your Common Law Marriage recognized in a Texas Court Of Law… Carefully Review The Following Instructions:  

1. Do not file any common law marriage documents with a Texas court. You and your partner should avoid filing certain documents with a Texas court, and you should avoid asking a Texas court to recognize a common law marriage. Doing so will result in the state recognizing a common law marriage. The important documents you should avoid filing and the proceedings you should avoid are:

2. A Declaration of Marriage. This is a document that formalizes a common law marriage.[4] It may also be referred to as a Declaration of Informal Marriage.[5] This document asks you to fill out, sign, and date a declaration stating that you meet all of the requirements of an informal marriage.

3. A Recognition of Common Law Marriage. This is a type of proceeding before a judge whereby you ask the court to recognize a common law marriage for a specific purpose, such as when you are filing for divorce.[6] When you go to the court hearing, you will most likely have to fill out a declaration of marriage form and file it with the court.

4. Agreements signed as a married couple. You should also avoid filing any documents with a court that have been signed by you and your significant other as a married couple.[7] Examples include leases, life insurance policies, and tax returns.[8]. 

In order to protect yourself and possibly if losing joint assets, it’s essential to file an Affidavit of Common Law Marriage.

For Texas Prison Wedding Clients, a CLM (Common Law Marriage) status at a TDCJ Prison Unit must be filed prior to incarceration. If your fiancée has listed themselves as CLM and the name is not yours on the status, you will need the Prisoner to change the status prior to requesting an I60 Request For Marriage. 

TDCJ Prison status of CLM cannot be changed after incarceration. The reason for this is that you (obviously) are NOT living with a Prisoner and therefore, cannot be considered CLM.

In Texas, you cannot be married to two people at the same time. The questions on a Marriage Application address this. Please answer these questions honestly. Failure to do so is a very real problem.

If you have further questions regarding Absentee Affidavits, Marriage Licenses, Proxy Marriage or Confidential Marriage outside Texas, please feel free to email me at wendy@texastwinsevents.com for more information.